Step One: I admitted I was powerless over my loss--that my life had become
unmanageable.
Psalm
50:14, 15; Psalm
118:5, 6; Romans
8:38, 39; Hebrews
2:9, 10; Revelation
21:3, 4.
Step Two: Came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to
sanity.
Psalm
25; Psalm
61:1-5; Psalm
139:1-5;
Isaiah
53:3-5; John
16:33.
Step Three: Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God
as I understood Him. I can say, "I forgive you."
Psalm
65:3; Isaiah
43:2-26; Romans
8:17, 18;
1
Peter 5:7; 1
John 4:7-10.
E = I experience the pain of my loss:
Step Four: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of my relationship with
the person I lost.
Proverbs
11:1; Job
28:28; Micah
6:8;
Ephesians
3:20, 21; James
1:19, 20.
Step Five: Shared with God, myself, and another human being the exact nature of my
relationship with the person I lost.
Psalm
31:20-22; Psalm
146; Matthew
7:24-29; Mark
11:24, 25; Romans
12:14-21.
Step Six: Was entirely ready to have God heal my relationship and remove defects
of my character.
Leviticus
19:18; Psalm
28:6-9; Psalm
73;
Proverbs
10:12; Jeremiah
17:7, 8; Matthew
7:1-5.
Step Seven: Humbly asked God to remove my shortcomings. I can
say, "Forgive me."
1
Chronicles 29:12-14; Psalm
107:13-16;
Acts
13:38, 39; Galatians
6:1-5; Hebrews
2:14, 15.
A = I adjust to my new environment without the lost person:
Step Eight: Made a list of all persons related to the person I
lost; became willing to
love again, and to make amends to those I had harmed.
Psalm
51:6; Hosea
5:15 to 6:3; John
15:9-14; Philippians
1:27, 28; Colossians
3:12-15.
Step Nine: Made an effort to reconnect, and made direct amends to
any person I had harmed wherever possible. I can say, "I
love you."
Deuteronomy
10:12; Jeremiah
1:6-9;
Luke
14:15-24; Luke
21:14, 15; Romans
6:22; Colossians
1:20-23; Colossians
4:6; James
5:16.
R = I reinvest in my new reality:
Step Ten: Continued to choose to love, and when I was wrong, promptly admitted it.
Psalm
9:11, 12; Isaiah
30:21; John
13:34, 35; Galatians
5:1; 1
John 1:7.
Step Eleven: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact
with God as I understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for
me and the power to carry that out.
Psalm
111:10; Psalm
147:1-11; Jeremiah
9:23, 24; Matthew
26:41, 42; John
8:32; Philippians
4:4-7.
Step Twelve: Having had healing as a result of these steps, I tried to share what I
learned with others, and to practice these principles in all my affairs.
I can say, "Goodbye."
Psalm
106:1, 2; Psalm
116:16; Isaiah
40:29-31; Matthew
5:6-10; 1
John 4:16-21.
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